at the gym...
Running on a treadmill at the gym is an interesting thing. Most people I see run on a treadmill do it as just a warm up for their workout - they run for 15 or 20 minutes just to get blood flowing and all. Since it's been so nice and warm here in San Diego lately :) , I've resorted to doing my daily run in the cool climate controlled YMCA. I love the warm weather of SoCal... I'm just not exactly adjusted to it after being in the cool of Siegen.
Ok, so back to the point. Most people run for 15, maybe 20 minutes, I'm doing my full hour +, which gets pretty boring on a treadmill. Thus the modern gym has installed TV's to watch with wonderful CC (thats closed captioning) to try to decipher while bobbling up and down on a running machine. While cruising along at about 7 miles/hour and getting nowhere, the television 12 feet in front of me caught my attention... Dr. Phil !
Dr. Phil was speaking with an unmarried couple who were living together, and therefore sleeping together. The guy was upset because his fiance, 20 year old Elisa, would feel 'dirty' and filled with guilt every time they had sex or just before, thus she just didn't want to do it any more. She basically said, "If I don't cry during, I usually cry afterward." I thought to myself, "I wonder what old Dr. Phil will say to this one," so I gave the reading of the captions slightly more of my attention for the next few minutes.
Phil's observation (and this is from his website) "You have what we call automatic thoughts. You've been programmed by powerful people in your life: parents, clergy, teachers, role-models, different people have programmed you with certain things."
The Doctor's orders!!!
OR ~ maybe Elisa should consider that what her parents and clergy taught her about premarital sex is right and that the guilt she is feeling is the conviction of the Holy Spirit.
Ok, so back to the point. Most people run for 15, maybe 20 minutes, I'm doing my full hour +, which gets pretty boring on a treadmill. Thus the modern gym has installed TV's to watch with wonderful CC (thats closed captioning) to try to decipher while bobbling up and down on a running machine. While cruising along at about 7 miles/hour and getting nowhere, the television 12 feet in front of me caught my attention... Dr. Phil !
Dr. Phil was speaking with an unmarried couple who were living together, and therefore sleeping together. The guy was upset because his fiance, 20 year old Elisa, would feel 'dirty' and filled with guilt every time they had sex or just before, thus she just didn't want to do it any more. She basically said, "If I don't cry during, I usually cry afterward." I thought to myself, "I wonder what old Dr. Phil will say to this one," so I gave the reading of the captions slightly more of my attention for the next few minutes.
Phil's observation (and this is from his website) "You have what we call automatic thoughts. You've been programmed by powerful people in your life: parents, clergy, teachers, role-models, different people have programmed you with certain things."
The Doctor's orders!!!
"Elisa write those thoughts down, challenge them and then replace them with rational, accurate thoughts You are an adult now. You get to choose what you think, feel, believe and value. You gave your power away to people in your past. They're not here anymore, but yet they're running your relationship because they programmed you. It's like you've been brainwashed so you have to deprogram yourself." (italics and bold; mine)Phil recommends she give herself the "Litmus Test for Logic" - There are 4 questions she should ask herself about her guilty thoughts: Is it a true fact? Does it serve her best interest? Does it protect and prolong her health? Does it get her what she wants?
OR ~ maybe Elisa should consider that what her parents and clergy taught her about premarital sex is right and that the guilt she is feeling is the conviction of the Holy Spirit.
posted by Miles at
7/26/2005 05:55:00 PM
4 Comments:
Pretty amazing isn't it? The way the world thinks. And you are right without the working of the Holy Spirit in a heart and life there would be no guilt feelings, Some one must be praying for this young lady. :-) That's good, maybe if we say a prayer for her, the scales can be tipped?
very good point...
Just very sad the counsel that "Dr.'s" give...
It's not surprising is it? I think the enemy pulls out all the stops in his agenda to keep people from God's design for relationships. I'm sure he thinks it's a victory to use 'clouty' folks like the Doctor P...even the government. Here in Scotland, marriage is rare but 'partners' are everywhere. The social system encourages it by giving better financial benefits for unmarried partners. Marry and honour God, get less money. Live in sin, dishonour one another AND God, get compensated. What would you do if you didn't know Him? I'll pray for this girl you saw on the tellie Milo, and with thanks at that because the Holy Spirit IS convicting her. I agree Hilda...Prayer. Prayer, prayer, prayer. Let's pray.
AMEN girls.... and Miles... Father, in Jesus name we lift up not only this young woman, but her boyfriend, and ask GOD that you would grip their hearts and by Your kindness lead them to repentance, and forgiveness of sin, available only by the shed blood of Jesus Christ. I pray for Dr Phil also LORD cause him to see that You hold him accountable for every word, and many are listening to him. He professes faith in Jesus, Lord bring conviction that he to, may repent and return to the light of Christ. Father we pray for all the young people struggling with these issues as ask you LORD to help your people to stand and proclaim truth, not the worldly, watered down version, but Your Holy Word, that remains.
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